I was tagged by Charlotte of Simply Together to take part in the Mama Tag. I’ve posted quite a few tags recently but I just had to get involved in this one too! I love a tag post what can I say. I really enjoyed reading Charlottes answers to make sure you check out her post after reading this one!
HOW OLD WERE YOU WHEN YOU HAD YOUR FIRST CHILD?
I was 24 when I gave birth and 23 when I found out I was pregnant. Emily is almost 8 months old now and I’m 25!
WHAT WAS THE HARDEST THING ABOUT BEING PREGNANT FOR 9 MONTHS?
I think the hardest thing about being pregnant was feeling uncomfortable in my own body. I didn’t enjoy pregnancy whatsoever. I had a good pregnancy, no morning sickness or anything like that but it just wasn’t for me. I didn’t enjoy the way I looked in clothes or that I couldn’t see my toes or lie comfortably in bed. The hardest thing about pregnancy was hating it I think.
CAN YOU THINK OF ANY GOOD THINGS YOU ENJOYED DURING THOSE 9 MONTHS?
I know the answer I’m supposed to give here is that I enjoyed feeling baby kick and grow etc etc but I didn’t. Feeling her move inside me made me feel sick and seeing my stomach move was gross. It was nice in the sense that I knew she was okay and growing well but the feeling and look of it I found disgusting. However, I did enjoy being encouraged to rest more and feeling fine about coming home from work and getting straight into bed for a nap. I enjoyed being indulgent and spending the day in bed with a book and some snacks. I don’t think I’ll be able to do that if I have any future children.
IN YOUR OPINION, WERE ALL THE THINGS YOU HEARD ABOUT CHILDBIRTH ACCURATE OR WAY OFF?
Mostly way off. I don’t think you can really explain what childbirth is like because every one has a different experience. I would say I had quite a negative and traumatic experience but then compared to someone else mine might have been a walk in the park. People never tell you the nice parts. No one ever mentions the rush of love you feel or how big your emotions will be. They just love to tell you horror stories and all the negative aspects so it’s hard to say whether they were accurate or not.
WOULD YOU HAVE HANDLED CHILDBIRTH DIFFERENTLY IF YOU COULD RE-DO IT?
If you mean would I handle giving birth to Emily differently then no I wouldn’t. The reason for this is that the birth would still be exactly what it was and I think I handled it in the best way I could. I’m contemplating writing up my labour and birth story so let me know if that’s something you’re interested in!
If I was to go through childbirth again under different circumstances with a different child and plan a perfect labour then I would have had a water birth. I would have had a lovely calm water birth in the lovely midwife led unit in our local hospital. We would have stayed overnight in the nice homely room with the nice double bed and it would have all been picture perfect.
WHAT WOULD BE YOUR ADVICE FOR SOMEONE WHO IS ABOUT TO HAVE A BABY?
My advice would be to make the most of your time to rest and prepare yourself mentally. The birth might go exactly to your plan or it might not. At the end of it you will have your perfect little baby and that makes whatever you may go through totally worth it. There is nothing like the feeling of holding your baby for the first time, it really is amazing! Make the most of any time spent in hospital, don’t be afraid to ask for help if you need it. The midwives are there for that exact reason and if you need extra support they can offer it.
WHAT HAS BEEN THE HARDEST THING ABOUT BEING A MUM?
The hardest thing about being a mum is breastfeeding I think. Breastfeeding is one of the hardest things I have ever done and I’m extremely proud to say I’ve been doing it for 8 months (almost) and still going. I never thought I would even try it let alone do it for as long as I have. I think another one of the hardest things is that your partner can’t really fully understand what you are going through. Becoming a mum changes you in ways that are hard to explain and I don’t think men will ever fully understand that.
WHAT HAS BEEN THE MOST REWARDING THING ABOUT BEING A MUM?
Breastfeeding. Seeing Emily develop her little personality. People stopping us in the street to tell us she’s beautiful. The list goes on! Truthfully though I think the most rewarding thing is seeing your baby grow and develop and knowing that you are responsible for it. For this tiny little human who one day could change the world!
WHAT WAS THE MOST SURPRISING THING YOU DISCOVERED ABOUT BEING A MUM?
That it can be quite lonely even if you are surrounded by people. I think I’ve struggled a little bit with trying to make people understand what being a mum is like. I’ve given up on that now because it’s a bit of a lost cause. People either get it or they don’t. I’ve found support on twitter and it’s lovely to know that there is always going to be someone that is going through the same thing as you. Don’t get me wrong, Jordan is extremely supportive and very good with Emily but he will never know what it’s like to push a baby out your bits and then be expected to carry on business as usual.
WHAT IS THE BEST MEMORY YOU HAVE INVOLVING YOUR CHILD?
I can’t pin point the BEST memory. Every day with her has aspects of magic. She is amazing and hands down the best thing I will ever do. I do think one of the best days was my birthday though. We had such an amazing day altogether as a family and I think I will treasure the memories of that day forever!
WHAT WAS THE MOST EXCITING MILESTONE?
When she smiled for the first time. That seemed like a huge break through! And when she started to laugh actually. I think all the milestones have been exciting. Sitting up and crawling were pretty exciting too. All of them. My answer is all of them.
WHAT IS THE WORST THING YOUR CHILD HAS EVER DONE?
Woke me up to the sound of her pooing. That was pretty unkind of her. Or the early days where she used to projectile vomit all over everyone and everything at any given time. The worst was when she covered the bed and her sleeping daddy in the middle of the night. I’m so glad she’s grown out of that now!
WHAT HABIT DID YOU WISH YOUR CHILD DIDN’T HAVE?
PULLING MY GOD DAMN HAIR AND SCRATCHING MY FACE. What is the need?
WHAT HABIT OF THEIRS MAKE YOU MOST PROUD?
I’m not really sure to be honest. I feel proud when she crawls along the floor or pulls her Daddys hair instead of mine. It also makes me proud how quickly she can demolish a chocolate button. She’s her mamas girl for sure! This girl also loves a selfie (can you tell?). Snapchat is her favourite for sure!
DO YOU SHARE ANY SIMILARITIES WITH YOUR CHILD? (BOTH PHYSICAL & PERSONALITY)
She looks just like me. She has my hair, my nose, my chin, my mouth. The only thing of mine she doesn’t have is my eyes. She has beautiful dark eyes just like her Daddy!
WHERE WOULD YOU LIKE YOUR CHILD TO BE IN 10 YEARS?
I absolutely refuse to even consider thinking about the fact that my child will one day be 10. Nope.
IS THERE SOMETHING THAT HAVING A CHILD HAS TAUGHT YOU?
That my body is amazing and I can handle a lot more than I thought. If I can go through pregnancy, labour and birth then I can do anything. I am a super hero!
DID YOU IMAGINE YOU’D BE A MUM AT THE AGE YOU BECOME A MUM?
To be honest, I did. I wanted children young but I don’t think 25 is that young to have a baby really.
DESCRIBE YOUR CHILD IN ONE SENTENCE?
Absolutely gorgeous and extremely clever!
HOW HAVE YOU CHANGED AS A PERSON SINCE BECOMING A MUM?
I don’t know if I have really. Maybe I’m a little less selfish? I’m a pretty laid back and chilled person most of the time and I’m actively trying to stay that way. I think I was born to be a mama so I haven’t had to make too many adjustments really!
I’m not going to tag anyone but if anyone wants to join in then feel free!
Love Laura xx